Thursday 6 March 2014

Where have I gone?

I have worked all my adult life helping kids avoid bullies.
Ignore it.
You are better than that.
Tell someone.
The bully has bigger issue, let's try to understand them.

When you've trusted someone with all your faults and foibles, secrets and hopes and been as real as you can be: and they turn on you and treat you appallingly - that stings.

When you are a kid.

When you are an adult you go through loads of feelings, the whole range sometimes.

When you are an adult with a mental health disorder it is all these things, plus you need to try and keep yourself safe.

And when the good friend who dumped on you after 15 years of friendship, knowing what it would do to you as they have a very close relative with MH themselves?

You can fill in the rest.

I AM still blogging, but am starting afresh, hopefully somewhere where, "Dear Reader" she will leave me alone.







59 comments:

  1. Well, I for one am glad you will continue blogging, even if it is elsewhere. If you know who it is, you can block them, or else do a private blog and only allow people on that you can trust.

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  2. FM I hope you can avoid her. But please keep blogging if it is helpful to you and you enjoy it. Miss you and your lovely posts. ~ Pru

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  3. Good to see you're still around, hope you're ok, along with your lovely family

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  4. Good to hear you will still blog, I have missed you, stay strong and look after yourself!

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  5. So glad you are staying determined. You have lots of supporters and bloggy friends out here....I appreciate your blog very much and have missed you. Welcome back and big hugs xx

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  6. So so sorry to hear that, please include me in your blog readers, x x

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  7. So glad to see you in my in box. Add me to your list of followers. I have missed you, I thought I had pressed a wrong button and lost you. It is too easy to say chin up, be strong blah blah. Be as strong as you can and tuck your chin down, that way no one can land a punch on it. Take care Pam x

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  8. Forgot to say please add me to your list of followers, I should hate to lose you again.

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  9. So sorry to hear your news. I don't understand why people turn like that. Hope you are feeling stronger now. I hope you have the strength to ignore this person when you attend family gatherings and continue to enjoy them as you so rightly should.
    I would love it if you added me to your list of followers. I have missed you welcome back.

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  10. I can only echo all that's already been said - and your blog was really missed, I kept checking it hoping to find you. Please look after yourself and I hope you start feeling better soon xxx

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  11. So glad you are back! I wish we could avoid disagreements and fights with our friends, but it seems to happen to all of us. Nothing for it but to move on. Life will get better again.
    Tana

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  12. Great to see you blogging again. I kept checking to see if you were back up and running. Why is it that those closest to us can hurt us the most. Why do they knowingly choose to do so. Why do we let them? Take care of yourself xx

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  13. Goodness, I'm so pleased to see you on here!! I kept looking and hoping, and here you are! You brave lady.
    I'm furious with her for you. The audacity of it. Bless your heart. Xx

    Please let me know where you go sweet.
    Stay strong, and ignore, ignore, ignore.
    Take care lovely lady. Big, big hugs,
    Xx

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  14. I am SO pleased to find a post from you, I have missed you.
    Please add me to your list of followers.
    It would seem to me that someone who behaves in that way must have some difficulties (mental or emotional) to deal with and is best ignored.
    The best response is a life well lived.
    xxx

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  15. I have been looking and wondering where you are. I am so glad to find you again.
    How are you?
    Whoever hurt you is a sh*tbag.
    The pain of being hurt by someone close, that you trust, is visceral, deeper, than if it were anyone else.
    I would love to be included as a follower.
    Had a bit of a crummy year (only April!!) and am hoping, to get my blog mojo back.
    Take care and best love to you
    Susan xx (and a snuffle to your new doggy)

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    1. I think I have just figured out who it is...I am a bit slow.....about to unfollow now. Missing you.
      Love
      susan xx

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  16. Glad I found you. Whoever they are ..... they are simply not worth it. Hope you keep blogging & that I can find the blog. Keep blogging, we love to read it, all best wishes, Vee x

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  17. Glad I have heard from you, I have missed your blog. Now I just need to find where you are?

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  18. Glad to have found you. I was worried that your blog had disappeared.

    I hope you have completely cut this "friend" out of your life.

    Take care of yourself and the family and if possible send me the link to your new blog home.

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  19. I really hope the Dear Reader comment isn't a clue, else I am both heartbroken for you and gutted for me, and have some unfollowing to do. Please add me to your list of followers, and take care, I have been really worried as to you

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    1. Must admit I took the Dear Reader as a clue and did some unfollowing too...

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    2. Same here. I think someone's head has grown very big lately.

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    3. The penny finally dropped and sorted. Hope I can join your list now?
      Carolx

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  20. Apologies if I there is a double post but I lack a blogger account. I am using my LJ account so as to appear a little less anon.

    I'm so sorry you have had to go through that and I know you have the love and support of those closest to you and those of us who have followed you online.

    I have always looked forward to your posts and I do miss them so I am glad you have decided to carry on. I am one of your followers on Bloglovin and I am more of a reader than a commenter. If you decide its appropriate I would love to continue to read your updates.

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  21. I am so sorry that you have had to endure this pain.
    Please add me to your list of followers, I have missed you and your generous open posts. I hope I can find you.
    Like others I noticed your clue and agree unfollowing is my choice too.
    Pam in TX.xxx

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  22. I do so hope you are feeling much brighter. Off to unfollow "Dear Reader":) Take good care and sending you {{{{hugs}}}} Linda xxxx PS Hope to find you again one day♥

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  23. I unfollowed a long time ago

    If you would like to add me to your reader list I would love that.

    Regardsless I hope all is ok with you and the family

    xxx

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  24. I've just nipped back to say that I'd love to be on your list of trusted followers if you decide to let us read your posts. You really have been missed very much, love to you and your family xxx

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  25. I know from reading your blog from when you first began, that blogging helps you, so I'm pleased to have found this post by you, and to know that you are continuing to blog somewhere you feel safe. Hoping all of you are well and that you can put such nastiness behind you.

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  26. Sorry, don't know what happened to my previous comment, but pleased to see you back. I would like to follow your lovely blog. I've missed you.

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  27. Hi... I wondered why I couldn't find you... I would love to be added to a list of trusted followers... I understand if not but would love to support you! P.s. Baby is here!

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  28. I've only just checked this site on the off chance as I thought you'd completely stopped blogging, so I'm late to this discussion. I'm so sorry for all you've had to go through. You must have been devastated and so very hurt. If the culprit is who I think it is then I've unfollowed too as I already read their blog infrequently nowadays due to the 'holier than thou' attitude. As a fellow depression sufferer and with a hubbie who has also has a breakdown in the past, I quite understand your need to protect yourself but I would love to be able to follow you if possible. Take care of yourself, love Helen x

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  29. I thought I had lost you again! I was a follower on your last two blogs and would be again if it was possible, please.
    I think I know who you are talking about and am very sorry you have had to go through this. Shona. X

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  30. Has anyone been invited to follow???

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  31. New blog address.....http://smilingalittle.blogspot.co.uk

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  32. I've managed to add a 'follow by email' button today. Getting there slowly folks x x

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  33. Hi Tracey, sorry to see that your new blog has disappeared, I hope everything is ok. Well, I guess it's not, for the blog to have been removed. I am sorry if you're having problems and hope that you can relax and have a lovely family Christmas.
    Sending you my best wishes, Sooze

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  34. Hello Tracey, just wanted to echo the message above - I hope you are feeling better very soon. I think of you often. Love Harriet xx

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  35. Hello, just wondering if you've seen Ilona's post today, 29th Dec? Think of you often x x

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  36. I saw Ilona's post too and wondered if the 'Dear Reader' was a clue. How sad ... Do hope you are ok as your new blog has disappeared now too...

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    1. Apologies for removing my previous post. I think most people have added 2 and 2 together and got 4. My troll has not been back to my blog for over 2 months, no one should have to hide because of her. Come out and show yourself to all your loyal readers, Tracey, I'm sure they would like to know what you are up to.

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  38. Hello Tracey, I was subscribed to your new blog but blogger keeps telling me that it no longer exists...I feel so sad and do hope you are okay. I have had to deal with someone who is malicious in my life too so I am sending big hugs to you and hope that one day I will be lucky enough to be able to read along when you blog again.

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  39. Tracey. I've been trying to find your blog for months to no avail but then found an old link on someone else's blog. If you do set up a new blog please could you add me. I do hope you are well and I'm sorry for the issues you have had with a so called friend. It hurts when people turn. Best wishes. Xx

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  40. I'd been trying to find this blog as somehow it got off my blog list. I just clicked on a link which I believed was a NEW blog and it was full of that 'imitation' language, just rubbish not anything I have ever seen. I wonder if it was a scam site?

    I'm sorry Tracey you have had this trouble. I've also read some comments above and wonder if it's the same person as I was thinking as my description would be smug and holier than thou.

    Please add me if there's an opportunity for it. I hope your daughter and granddaughter are doing well and I have eventually got a granddaughter of my own, I thought they were confirmed globe trotters.

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  41. Here, here, meanqueen has it right, please come back I really miss you x

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  42. Here, here, meanqueen, I agree with that, please come back, I really miss you

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  43. I keep checking in, hoping there will be some news of you. I hope you begin blogging again and that if you do, that I find you. I miss your posts, I miss you. I hope that you are feeling better and that things are well with you and your family.xxx

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  44. New blog is at: http://smilingalittle.blogspot.co.uk

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  45. Hiya Tracy could you send me an invitation for your new blog as Blogger says by invitation only, , hope you and your family are all well xx eve

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  46. Hiya Tracy could you send me an invitation for your new blog as Blogger says by invitation only, , hope you and your family are all well xx eve

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  47. Please please can you send me an invitation to your blog. Really enjoy reading it and was most disappointed yesterday to discover it's now by invitation only. Has someone been interfering yet again!! Cheers Christine

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  48. please may I have an invite as well?

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  49. Oh dear I have lost you again. Not more interference? Please can I have an invite/ permission to read your new blog, it now says by invitation only :(

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  50. Hi Tracey, I am sorry if you have been driven away from blogging. I can guess who it is and I am not in the least surprised! I hope that your smiling a little blog will come back again. You have a lot of support and her is diminishing by the day! Please invite me if you decide to have a private blog .

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  51. I can only say ditto to all the above comments. Please don't give in to your bully, easier said than done I know. Your loyal readers miss you and when you feel strong enough to start again please add me to your list. Sending you and your lovely family kind regards.x

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